On a long drive home from Central Oregon with one of my best friends, we talked about the people who love us into safety. That’s what @orangejoelius and so many others have done for me. My journey to recognizing and accepting my queerness was a slow one. I had to dig into layer after layer of fear until I could stand face to face with my full self. I am recognizing in my generation that so many of us are just now coming out to ourselves and others in our thirties and forties. For some, the ramifications are loaded. I consider myself *lucky* that coming out as bi did not mean a transition out of my marriage, since I fully believe that even if I had been able to explore the fullness of my sexuality earlier in life, I would have still chosen this man right here as my partner. To everyone out there for whom coming out has meant loss, transition, and great change, I see you. You are brave and beautiful. And to those of you who like me have chosen to come out because it means getting to shine in the fullness of truth, or to be a visible reminder that bisexuals are valid, then I applaud you in your honesty and transparency. To everyone identifying as queer and Christian, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t. Only we can know how our hearts beat.
